Can Guys And Girls Be Close Friends?
By: staceyq2you
Tags: Friendship, Love, Men, Relationships, Women
By: Zara A
Unsurprisingly, this topic never fails to trigger controversial debates. Some people feel opposite-sex friendships are possible, whereas others like me believe this is not possible in MOST cases; particularly in so-called ‘close friendships.’
According to Mr Clark, EVERY rule has its exception… It is evident that *ugly* unattractive individuals have more luck in successfully retaining many more platonic opposite-sex friendships in comparison to those deemed *pretty* attractive. Next on his list were gays and lesbians, followed by virgins. Simply because unattractive *ugly* people are not cute, gays have no interest in vaginas, lesbians do not enjoy penises and virgins are somewhat scared of penises. I found Clark’s viewpoint incredibly funny; (I guess some people may find it rude or offensive but at the end of the day everyone is entitled to their own opinions right?) to be honest it does sound like a reasonable generalisation. What’s your stance on his controversial views, do you agree or disagree?
I firmly believe platonic relationships are one-sided, with one person physically attracted to and possibly pining over the other; be it secretly or blatantly. This may not be the case initially, but with time and the development of a ‘friendship and mutual trust’ one *if not both* person(s) will start to catch unintended feelings.
I guess with casual friendships a platonic state can remain. However, with a relationship of any depth; whereby emotional energy is shared, I do not believe it is possible. For example; a guy and girl speak literally every *other* day, spend a lot of one on one quality time together, he listens to her complain about how there are no good guys out their, provide each other with advice etc. At some stage in this process someone will begin to see the other in a different light (speaking based on numerous personal experiences).
Whilst online, I came across a blog by ‘Mr Thomas’. He talked about guys being stuck in the ‘just-friend zone’ whereby because a guy and girl are good friends she cannot see him as anything more than just a friend. He wonders whether this happens because these guys are perceived as being too available, too nice, ‘like a brother’ etc. He concluded by suggesting that girls need to seriously re-think this matter; so instead of using nice guys we should perhaps give them a chance. He posed the question “shouldn’t being a good friend and developing a healthy friendship be the first step towards nurturing a deeper friendship?” I totally agree with his point as it seems logical that building a friendship beforehand would offer a great foundation for a stable long-term relationship. But such is life…
There are countless arguments for and against the idea of platonic opposite-sex friendships. I could go on…but I’ve decided to keep this blog relatively short, controversial and somewhat sweet LOL. So now its time to hear your views!!! 
Stay Blessed x
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